Sexual Purity
Today I am going to talk about something
that a lot of people don't like to talk about.
Sexual Purity.
What is sexual purity to a Christian? Is it just not having sex before marriage? Is it refraining from all physical things? Does that include kissing? Or what about touching? Can you be a virgin and still not be "pure"?
Growing up in the twenty first century is hard when it comes to this topic. We so often hear the lies that "it's okay to have sex before marriage." Or that "it's okay to mess around and come close to having sex, as long as you aren't actually having sex". But those are all lies. It's not okay. It's wrong.
God designed sex -and all things sexual- to be between a married man and woman. Sex itself is not a bad thing. It is designed to be any amazing physical, emotional, and chemical action between a man and woman. It's only wrong when you miss use it and it's not a special connection anymore. We throw "sex" around as if it's as special and common as a cheeseburger. It's good and enjoyable; every where you turn you can get one. All you gotta do is ask. Everyone likes cheeseburgers- if you don't, you're just weird. As crazy as that analogy may be, it's true! Unfortunetly. People talk about sex like it's nothing or people just don't talk about it period.
I think sex should be talked about because everyone should know that its something special and intimate. Growing up in a Christian family it was just not a topic that was really ever discussed. But growing up in this world it was one of the most talked about topics. So I grew up hearing a lot about sex and sexual things from the worlds point of view. It left me with tons of questions. I didn't know what a lot of "things" were. So what did I do? I didn't ask my parents that's for sure! I asked my friends.
The more you talk about it with your friends and others, it becomes a common topic with you. You hear about your friends having sex, and people getting pregnant. You hear about girls and guys just making out with each other for fun. Eventually you start to become immune to it all and it doesn't bother you anymore. You know it's wrong, but it just doesn't shock you like it used to.
That's the way a lot of people look at sex. Everyone does it. There is more pressure about being a virgin then there is about not being one. And that is sad.
It breaks my heart to see girls give in to this pressure and temptation. They look for love and acceptance and they think a guy and sex will do that for them. They try to stay strong and wait, but eventually after time and constant peer pressure they give in...
God loves us so much and only wants the best for us. He has done so much for us, and yet we don't listen to His words. In 1 Thessalonians 4:7 it says, " For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness." We claim to be Christians but a lot of us don't live our life accordingly. It's almost like we look at what He says as only a mere suggestion. Our God knows ALL! Would He make a big deal about staying pure if it wasn't for our best interest?
We all make mistakes that we can't go back and change. But that doesn't mean God's done with us. It doesn't mean we are useless and not worthy. God can use anyone for His glory. In the Bible God used those who had done some of the worst things to show His forgiveness, love, and mercy. He used murders, adulterers, thieves, and liars. No matter what your past is God can still use you; whether you are dealing with addictions to pornography, cheating on your spouse, having sex before marriage. As hard as it may seem right now to not give into your fleshly desires, you can get past this. With God's help you can overcome anything.
So many of us sell ourselves short. We don't give ourselves much worth. God says we are beautifully and wonderfully made. He also says we are bought at a price so we are to honor God with our bodies. So what are we doing? Are we honoring Him if we throw ourselves out there? Or if we show off our body? Or if we have those impure thoughts?
So I challenge you (and myself) to give yourself more respect and to give others more respect; to not let others use you and to make sure you are being treated how you should be treated. God loves and adores us and wants us to be treated just like He treats us.
Romans 12:2
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Sexual Purity.
What is sexual purity to a Christian? Is it just not having sex before marriage? Is it refraining from all physical things? Does that include kissing? Or what about touching? Can you be a virgin and still not be "pure"?
Growing up in the twenty first century is hard when it comes to this topic. We so often hear the lies that "it's okay to have sex before marriage." Or that "it's okay to mess around and come close to having sex, as long as you aren't actually having sex". But those are all lies. It's not okay. It's wrong.
God designed sex -and all things sexual- to be between a married man and woman. Sex itself is not a bad thing. It is designed to be any amazing physical, emotional, and chemical action between a man and woman. It's only wrong when you miss use it and it's not a special connection anymore. We throw "sex" around as if it's as special and common as a cheeseburger. It's good and enjoyable; every where you turn you can get one. All you gotta do is ask. Everyone likes cheeseburgers- if you don't, you're just weird. As crazy as that analogy may be, it's true! Unfortunetly. People talk about sex like it's nothing or people just don't talk about it period.
I think sex should be talked about because everyone should know that its something special and intimate. Growing up in a Christian family it was just not a topic that was really ever discussed. But growing up in this world it was one of the most talked about topics. So I grew up hearing a lot about sex and sexual things from the worlds point of view. It left me with tons of questions. I didn't know what a lot of "things" were. So what did I do? I didn't ask my parents that's for sure! I asked my friends.
The more you talk about it with your friends and others, it becomes a common topic with you. You hear about your friends having sex, and people getting pregnant. You hear about girls and guys just making out with each other for fun. Eventually you start to become immune to it all and it doesn't bother you anymore. You know it's wrong, but it just doesn't shock you like it used to.
That's the way a lot of people look at sex. Everyone does it. There is more pressure about being a virgin then there is about not being one. And that is sad.
It breaks my heart to see girls give in to this pressure and temptation. They look for love and acceptance and they think a guy and sex will do that for them. They try to stay strong and wait, but eventually after time and constant peer pressure they give in...
God loves us so much and only wants the best for us. He has done so much for us, and yet we don't listen to His words. In 1 Thessalonians 4:7 it says, " For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness." We claim to be Christians but a lot of us don't live our life accordingly. It's almost like we look at what He says as only a mere suggestion. Our God knows ALL! Would He make a big deal about staying pure if it wasn't for our best interest?
We all make mistakes that we can't go back and change. But that doesn't mean God's done with us. It doesn't mean we are useless and not worthy. God can use anyone for His glory. In the Bible God used those who had done some of the worst things to show His forgiveness, love, and mercy. He used murders, adulterers, thieves, and liars. No matter what your past is God can still use you; whether you are dealing with addictions to pornography, cheating on your spouse, having sex before marriage. As hard as it may seem right now to not give into your fleshly desires, you can get past this. With God's help you can overcome anything.
So many of us sell ourselves short. We don't give ourselves much worth. God says we are beautifully and wonderfully made. He also says we are bought at a price so we are to honor God with our bodies. So what are we doing? Are we honoring Him if we throw ourselves out there? Or if we show off our body? Or if we have those impure thoughts?
So I challenge you (and myself) to give yourself more respect and to give others more respect; to not let others use you and to make sure you are being treated how you should be treated. God loves and adores us and wants us to be treated just like He treats us.
Romans 12:2
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
I am so proud of our College and Young Adults at our church. They not only KNOW the Word of God, but FOLLOW the Word of God. You will be blessed! Thanks for sharing your insightful thoughts in your blog. God is good!
ReplyDeleteThank you for taking the time to read it! I'm glad you enjoyed it!
DeleteI have a 1 yr old daughter and hope to raise her upright, but not blind to the world. I will definitely have the sex talk with her. Hope I can use this same advice as a guideline and be so wise.
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading. I think its good to have balance in everything you do. If a person understands the reasons for doing or not doing something they are more likely to listen and obey. being 100% open and talking is key! Glad you enjoyed the read! God will bless you if you follow Him.
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